Advice for Ruby by Lindsay Bonacci

Dear Ruby,

First off, I would like to let you know that I am deeply sorry for you and your families' tragic loss. It must be a huge struggle everyday for you and your sister to get by without a mother to depend on. I hear that you are having some family problems with your sister and Calvin. It is completely normal to have some difficulties at home after a death in the family. I think that Calvin is just trying to take on the role as a powerful and responsible parent. However, i don't think it is necessary to take his temper out on you and Phylissia with the strap. This is probably why Phylissia chooses to defy him. She is just having a hard time coping with her mothers death, and Calvin isn't making it any easier on her. Maybe you can try helping her. Let her know that what she is doing is hurting not only you and Calvin, but also herself. She is only going to put more and more stress on herself by her actions. After you put some of this sense in her mind, try and start a family conference with you, Calvin, and Phylissia. This can give you and your sister the chance to spill out your worries and emotions to your father. Please let me know if this helps! Once again, i am truly sorry for your unfortunate loss. Best of luck to you and your family!

Love,

Lindsay Bonacci