Advice for Ruby Cathy by Marina Nolla

Dear Ruby,

I'm truly so sorry to hear about your mother. I know times are rough right now, but they WILL get better. You're letter really upset me. A girl your age shouldn't have to deal with these problems, but I will give you the best advice I can give. All I feel that is really useful for you to do right now is to communicate with your family. When it comes to your father, I think you should talk to him, one on one, and tell him everything that's on your mind unless you feel like he may get violent with you. Talk to him about why your sister acts the way she does and mention that you want to keep your family together. If you get emotional, that's okay! He is your father and you should be able to talk to him. As for your sister, you have nothing to lose by talking to her. Sit her down and explain to her how her actions toward your father are affecting you in very negative ways. Tell her how important it is for your family to stay together and how moving away won't solve anything. Mention how much you love her and your father! You need to lay everything out on the table and tell your sister and father exactly how you feel. If this doesn't work, try talking to another relative, friend, or teacher. I hope everything goes well and I wish you the best of luck!