Monday, November 21, 2011

Advice for Ruby Cathy by Matthew Burch

Dear Ms.Cathy
    Far too often we find ourselves caught in the middle of disputes between our loved ones.  This kind of scenario is twice as hard when the ones fighting share common blood, and is even worse still when one is the child of the other. Fathers can be a symbol of love and protection but can also be a symbol of fierce power and oppression, as is the case with yours. Fathers love their children, this is a known fact. They feel protective over them especially when his children are pretty, young women. Some fathers have trouble expressing their feelings of love and protection. Some fathers want to be able to control aspects of their daughter’s lives to ensure that they grow up safely and properly. Your father seems to be both of these types. I’m sure he loves you two deeply, but cannot express it well. The reason he beats you when you have done something wrong is simply because he does not know any other way to teach you two. He probable fears that if he is not strict with you he will lose you both. Now as for your sister she is a whole other problem.
 Like I have said before your father probable has trouble expressing his love. This may cause your sister to feel unloved, unwanted and even hated. These emotions have very dramatic effects on a family’s life style. As your father gets more and more strict, your sister feels more feelings of hatred and anger. This can eventually lead to “rebellion”, if you will. This will only lead to more beatings, fights, strict rules, fear and rebellion. It is an endless cycle that escalates until someone finally cracks and goes too far with his/her actions.
 I’m almost positive you have seen these kinds of behaviors among your family, especially after your mother passed. The death of a family member is tragic and can put enormous amounts of stress on members of the family, especially if they were close. This stress can make anger rise faster and with more intensity.
What I suggest you do is have your father and sister talk things out. First you tell them about how this constant fighting is hurting you, both physically and mentally. Next get them to explain to one another why they have been acting like they have. To ensure that your father stays calm have a close family friend or member come and be with him during this conversation. To ensure your sister stays YOU need to be there and keep her talking and calm. This should show each other that they have both been wrong. Next you should try and get your father to express his feelings about your sister, and then your sister needs to tell your father how she feels.
I hope I have helped you in your time of need. If you need further assistance do not be afraid to contact me again. If you feel that you cannot do this by yourself, I also have family counseling on Tuesdays, Wednesdays, and Thursdays. All you need to do is call and schedule and appointment.
                        Best wishes,
                                                                         Matthew J. G. Burch

4 comments:

  1. I am speechless Matthew. Beautiful. Absolutely beautiful.

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  2. Great! That is the only word to describe this!

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  3. Well done, and the ending was a nice touch. There were a few proofreading spoofs though. Remember to proofread... I will have a grade for you tomorrow!

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    1. Well done Jean Shorts. You really know how to sell it. It is very touching. Next time try and proofread a little more.

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